“Relationships are like mushrooms; some are tasty others are poisonous,” says Vincent Mars (blogger) and i totally agree. We live in an era where being single is a sin and saying ‘NO’ to a dude who asks you to date him is likened to playing hard to get. Everyone is getting cuffed into relationships and if you aren’t in one, then you definitely have a problem.
So you bump into a stranger; make eye contact, shake hands or even hug and you’re all over telling the whole World that you have fallen head over heels for them. My brother, you can make a good actor! Let me explain what you just felt. That was a mere attraction caused by the reaction of dopamine, adrenaline and oxytocin hormones. It’s simple science! Don’t get it twisted. I believe friendships should come first, then the two of you build it to a relationship. Get to know each other. Know your partner’s likes and dislikes together with the minor details like her favourite colour. Reality check approaching>>> the only love at first incidence in existence is the one you experienced when your mother first saw you at birth.
Things are so bad that relationships are fatal. This actually makes most human beings shy away from. I mean no one is ready to see his maker anytime soon. We’ve not yet completed our purpose on Earth leave alone seeing our grandchildren’s children. Just the other day, former Wananchi group CEO Richard Alden was accused of killing his girlfriend Grace Kinyanjui. Love is not supposed to be one long gut-wrenching misery; it should actually be peaches and cream…or so i assume.
Quick free advice tips:
- If a relationship threatens your life, leave! Flee!
- Please don’t commit suicide just because you found your partner in a compromising state with someone else. I regard that as the epitome of dumbness.(sorry that was a little bit harsh)
What happened to happy ever after? Or does it only exist in the many animations and rom coms we watch? What happened to sticking to your own man /woman….
Love is a four-letter word that really holds a lot of meaning. A i said in my earlier post, i am a hopeless romantic soul, but trust me i’ve experienced love that is: family love, self-love and God’s love (agape)
Just the other day, a relationship that i admired and envied in equal measure got to a halt. The two were simply admirable: they never argued, they talked of their success…name it. It was my dream relationship to say the least.
I have not turned to Chris Hart to offer relationship advice but for the 19 years i’ve been on Earth, this is the much i know about relationships.
- Do not cheat. Be loyal. If you know that you cannot stand having her as the only one, please let her know in good time.
- Be open-minded with your partner. If there’s a character you disdain in him, let him know.
- Do not compare your relationship with that of your friend’s. You are not dating your friend, so focus on your relationship.
- Pray! I think this should have been my first point. Let your relationship pillar be prayer.
- Love! This might sound obvious, but it’s usually not the case in many relationships. I mean why would you be in a relationship if there’s no love between you. This is actually the only virtue that will bind the two of you.
Love is a belief. A belief shared between two people. Love grows or rather develops. Love is progressive. Thus, there’s nothing like falling out of love.
From the Holy book:
1st Corinthians 13:4-7 Love is patient and kind; it is not jealous or conceited or proud; love is not ill-mannered or selfish or irritable; love does not keep a record of wrongs; love is not happy with evil, but is happy with the truth. Love never gives up; and it’s faith, hope and patience never fail. 13 Meanwhile these three remain: faith, hope and love; and the greatest of these is love.
Hebrews 13: 1 Keep on loving one another as Christian brothers and sisters. 4Marriage is to be honoured by all, and husbands and wives must be faithful to each other. God will judge those who are immoral and those who commit adultery.
Basically, love is the greatest virtue. This does not apply only to the lovebirds, but to all. Treat people well and practice the art of love. Frankly, it irks me to see relationships that were once solid, crumble. And remember, there’s nothing like falling out of love unless you were coerced to be in the relationship.
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